Okay, so I know I won’t get any (and that’s not really the point). Tonight, I have a date with one of my girlfriends. There was a time when she and I would hang out maybe three times a week, including an all day session on the weekend. We’d talk on the phone the other days and were pretty much in each other’s daily life.
Then came boyfriends, new jobs, new apartments, new roommates, etc., and our relationship just wasn’t the same. We are still very good friends, and I care for her a great deal, but in order for us to see each other, we have to make a date.
In high school, I had approximately five to eight friends at any time whose life I was in on daily. We saw each other everyday, talked on the phone or hung out at night. In college this shifted as I had maybe two or three people who I felt this entwined in their life (and they in mine).
The older I get, the more difficult it is to have friendships that are so involved. I would say since I moved to DC, there have been maybe three to four people that I talk to or see daily. But, time and circumstance has changed most of those friendships in that the dynamic has changed. I don’t feel any differently about those friends who I don’t see or talk to as often, but I also don’t think I appreciated how special it was when we did have that kind of intimacy in our friendship. What does make it a little better is that all of these friendships based in genuine love and concern, and when we do get together, it’s like we never missed a beat.