Wednesday, August 03, 2005

Sex, Lies and Videotape.

I tried to continue my recovery from the August cold I have with a little red wine, good company and Steven Soderbergh's "Sex, Lies and Videotape." While this movie talks a lot about sex, it isn't really that graphic. I enjoyed watching it for three reasons:

1. There are a lot of movies in the 80s that I missed growing up. My parents were really weird about me seeing rated R movies, so I missed out on some good stuff. My first rated R movie was Rock the Cradle, and it was really scary. I also watched with a couple of my girlfriends"Blueberry Hill," which has one all nude love scene, and we thought we were watching porn. In fact, a few weeks later my friend was horrified to see that her mom and step-dad had rented that movie and invited her to watch it, too. We were all aghast that our friend had been invited to watch porn with her mom.

2. I judged people a lot when I was little. My grandparents were charter members of the church I attended every Sunday for eighteen years. I didn't always believe everything in church, especially once I reached high school and hung out with the atheists-freaky kids on the speech team. But, when I was young, I thought sin was everywhere. If my friends dad would have just one beer in the fridge, he was a drunk. If my friend said "Oh my God" then they needed to pray for forgiveness. I remember being ten or so and being at an older friends house. She had a copy of "Sex, Lies and Videotape" lying with a bunch of other movies. I remember sort of judging her for having such a "dirty" movie. However, every time that I saw a sin, I also remember finding comfort in it. I like the idea that other people had problems and were not perfect. Perhaps that's why I now embrace my own vices so wholeheartedly?

3. I love James Spader. He has that allure I can only liken to John Malcovich. It's a sexy sort of knowing and mischievousness in his charisma that I rarely find in other actors.

If you missed this movie in 1989, you should check it out.


Anonymous rcr said...

I wasn't allowed to watch any R rated movies either, so most of my knowledge of 80's films comes from saturday night live parodies (I was allowed to stay up late to watch SNL). I never really got the jokes, but I laughed anyway.

9:41 AM  
Blogger V said...

Yeah, and it's weird when you say you haven't seen some 80's movie and people look at you like you're crazy. Can I help it that my parents were zealots and thought that nudity was the pathway to the devil?

10:06 AM  
Blogger Kathryn Is So Over said...

Count me as a member of the no "R" movies club. I can not tell you the agony of not having seen The Blue Lagoon or Xanadu as a very young elementary school students. Actually, maybe my parents were on to something with those.

But I'm still angry I was not allowed to have one of the giant Barbie heads whose hair and makeup you could do. Bitter.

11:08 AM  
Blogger Patrick J. Fitzgerald said...

V, glad you broke ranks and are comfortable with your nudity since we all know that only face licking is the pathway to the Devil.

11:26 AM  
Blogger DC Cookie said...

When I was 14 I swore I'd never touch alcohol and that I wanted to be a minister.

Oh how times have changed...

11:34 AM  
Blogger The Boy said...

I wasn't able to see Dirty Dancing or Pretty Woman until I came to college. Maybe that's why I'm a mid-20's adolescent?

11:56 AM  
Blogger Sara said...

I wasn't allowed to see Dirty Dancing, but my Dad let me...

It was a secret... until my mom found me playing with dolls (renamed with character names) reinacting scenes from the movie...

12:35 PM  
Blogger Miss Penny Lane said...

My dad took me to see Halloween when it was in the theaters (1978). I was all of 7 years old. WTF?! It scared the crap outta me but, to this day, I love me a scary movie, and I am sure that is why.

1:24 PM  
Blogger V said...

K; Wow, no makeup Barbie...that's harsh!

To add onto these tales of parental abuse:
I wasn't allowed to watch the Dungeons and Dragons cartoon either because it was evil or something.

My dad also made me take the Vanilla Ice tape back to Wal-Mart after he read the lyrics.

So much pain...

1:34 PM  
Blogger DC Girls said...

V, if you like James Spader you should watch Bad Influence. I think Rob Lowe was also in it.

1:59 PM  
Blogger Scot in DC said...

My mother took me to see Silence of the Lambs. I think I am still messed up from that. I think she thought it was going to be about sheep or something (there are more sheep than people in scotland).

I think your parents were on to something.

2:46 PM  
Blogger Natty G said...

Your dad definitely had your best musical interests at heart when he made you take back the Vanilla Ice tape...

3:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I still don't watch Rated R movies because I believe they are dirty and evil. Rated R movies make you want to do bad things because they have subliminal messages. They are bad and should not be allowed to be seen by impressionable children. Likewise, I cannot stand curse words, drinking,liars, gambling, smoking, fornicating, and don't get me started on homosexuals.
Now, excuse me while I adjust my halo, grab my bible, kiss my George W. Bush poster, and go pray for all you sinners.

4:10 PM  
Blogger Miss Penny Lane said...


Were you able to type that without puking?

5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was laughing the whole time!

5:50 PM  
Blogger Team Itchybox said...

V -- when you are raising little Vs will you follow your parents' actions and allow them to see R movies? If not, they might lose their V-cards really early! ;o)

9:14 AM  

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